Broken Boom

Sounds like he understands well enough the source of his difficulties.
Himself:

"She is a sailor too - but I think a better one than me,' he said. "

 

I think the famous Fastnet race about 30 years ago was one of the best examples of this kind of behaviour. Boats were abandoned because they broke the rudder. The crew drowned in a liferaft and the boat was found floating alone.

 

Gonzo has it. People have to be honest with themselves, which very rarely they are. Most don't react with calm determination, which is precisely what you need in these situations. If you can't focus on the issues that face you for emotional or other reasons, you're screwed.

Training can help, but reality is a much better teacher. Some folks just suckled too long or something and can't cope. These are the ones that stand up and run madly into withering gun fire at the first signs of battle. Boot camp tries to weed these out, but inexorability some manage to fool their way past the DI's and get blown up, in spite of their training. Think of it as nature's way of weeding out the gene pool . . .