Shape Up Or Ship Out !!

I have lamented a number of times at the loss of one or other of our more prominent and knowledgeable contributors. I must sadly now report on the departure of PAR - one the most prolific and well-respected members of this forum. His loss will be felt by us all....

No... he's not dead!

...Just REALLY PISSED OFF at the lack of decorum that is becoming increasingly common.

We don't always agree with each other - nor should we. But let's all have the decency to 'speak' nicely to one another. When you post in a condescending manner, you demean nobody more than yourself. If I've been guilty of it in the past, let me publicly apologise and commit to trying not to do so in the future.

Play nice. Or piss off!

 

Unfortunately this is the same on many forums and most written communication like emails.http://adverlab.blogspot.com/2008/04/study-why-e-mails-are-often.html and http://www.howtoweb.com/blog/214061

Often a comment can be read in the wrong context and the response can be out of proportion to the original posting. Before long you get a flame war.

At least in these forums you don't seem to get people joining in on the different sides and provoking each other.

I hope PAR changes his mind, unfortunately you can't just head off to another forum as most of them are the same, moderators can help if they get in quick enough.

Mark

 

Thank you Will and thank you Mark.

I definitely take responsibility for my part as moderator in not doing a better job in this situation, and I will do my best going forward to do better and to try and keep things on a more even course and everyone happy.

If we all are a bit more respectful of one another I think things can be more productive and enjoyable for all.

I ask everyone for your help going forward. Please be mindful of the forum rules. Please help us to keep threads informational, constructive, and on topic; respect your fellow forum members by not taking their question or discussion off-course with totally unrelated talk if it would be better handled in a PM to another member or by starting a new thread for the new idea.

I ask everyone to please be respectful to one another, even in disagreement. We can learn a lot from each other even if we sometimes disagree.

Historically one great aspect of our site is that it's allowed students or beginners to have a way to ask questions or gain guidance from a diverse group of professionals who graciously share their knowledge. Everyone starts somewhere, and allowing this connection is a great thing.

If you are new to the forum, I ask you to always be respectful and appreciative to those who take time from their own work to share their ideas.

If you are a student or beginner or new to the forum, please be mindful of what you are asking, ask specific questions, give your background and what work you have done and as much specific information as you can to make the question meaningful. If possible, post a drawing as an attachment to show what specifically you are asking about. And please always be polite and thankful to those who are taking their time away from paid work to help you.

I sincerely appreciate the help from each and every one of you reading this to keep things productive. I am also grateful to all those who contribute their time, experience, and knowledge to help so many others on the forum. Thank you.

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