Sean Herron
10-18-2009, 03:17 AM
Hello...
Any and all thoughts appreciated...
SH.
Any and all thoughts appreciated...
SH.
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gonzo
10-18-2009, 04:12 AM
Thoughts? Grab a six pack and call your buddies
Sean Herron
10-18-2009, 04:50 AM
Hello...
Got to work same...
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SH.
Got to work same...
See - http://www.boatdesign.net/gallery/showphoto.php/photo/15277/ppuser/3673 ...
Classic divorse crumble - yup...
SH.
dougfrolich
10-18-2009, 05:04 AM
Why is divorce so expensive? BECAUSE IT IS WORTH IT!!!
Sean Herron
10-18-2009, 05:11 AM
Hello...
We all get only one go around...
See - http://www.youtube.com/user/SluGz02#p/f/39/MgwDOidJPZg ...
Thanks...
SH.
We all get only one go around...
See - http://www.youtube.com/user/SluGz02#p/f/39/MgwDOidJPZg ...
Thanks...
SH.
Boston
10-18-2009, 02:12 PM
its been recently discovered that the leading cause of divorce is marriage
best if luck with the new found freedom
best if luck with the new found freedom
westlawn5554X
10-19-2009, 12:03 AM
look... I am not married but already filing a divorce...
Submarine Tom
10-19-2009, 01:26 AM
"Marriage is a wonderful institution.
But who wants to spend the rest of their life in an institution?"
But who wants to spend the rest of their life in an institution?"
Frosty
10-19-2009, 01:51 AM
I did it once, I was divorced at 21, --never did it again. I only need kicking up the arse once to learn a lesson , some people go into it 2 3 times.
If your even thinking about it ---its time to do it --lifes too short.
A more sensible relationship can be had without marriage,--marriage just spoils it somehow.
If your even thinking about it ---its time to do it --lifes too short.
A more sensible relationship can be had without marriage,--marriage just spoils it somehow.
masalai
10-19-2009, 02:07 AM
If you gotta get divorced, just do it & walk away and start a-freash from scratch, done that 3 times - doubt I will ever catch up to the likes of "Liz Taylor":D:D - - - like a dickhead, I went and got married again:?::?:
TollyWally
10-19-2009, 02:12 AM
Best wishes for hard times. Good luck.
alaskamokaiman
10-19-2009, 03:41 AM
When they come they are wet and wild. When they go they take the house and the car.
daiquiri
10-19-2009, 06:21 AM
When they come they are wet and wild. When they go they take the house and the car.
:D :D :D
Best wishes, Sean.
:D :D :D
Best wishes, Sean.
Boston
10-19-2009, 06:59 AM
buddy of mine always says you should just give her the house and car in the first place
that way if she stays you at least know its not for the stuff
B
that way if she stays you at least know its not for the stuff
B
Fanie
10-19-2009, 11:20 AM
Tough times ahead. Now you HAVE to learn where the friggin washing machine switches on, and how a tin opener works.
As for the lonelyness, that's what you have to learn to cope with. All the stuff you always wanted to do when she's not there you will get done in about a day or two.
Actually you are the man (leader) in the house. Why don't you just sort the three problems out that is causing all the crap ? Up to you. If you can't sort it out now, the next time is going to be similar, just easier, but it will happen again. Big responsibility tho, especially if you have kids. Divorce is going to fcuk everything up, including the kids...
As for the lonelyness, that's what you have to learn to cope with. All the stuff you always wanted to do when she's not there you will get done in about a day or two.
Actually you are the man (leader) in the house. Why don't you just sort the three problems out that is causing all the crap ? Up to you. If you can't sort it out now, the next time is going to be similar, just easier, but it will happen again. Big responsibility tho, especially if you have kids. Divorce is going to fcuk everything up, including the kids...
TeddyDiver
10-19-2009, 01:05 PM
Got to admit my mariage goes swell nowadays.. Missus have been 10000km away last 12 months.. and I'm not buying her a ticket back :P
Boston
10-19-2009, 01:19 PM
hang in there Shawn
it will be over soon enough and it will be like a whole hew world opens up for you
interesting view Fanie
I approach the live in thing from the dead opposite angle
no ones leading anything and no ones in charge
I want a partner not a subordinate
not a snow balls chance Im getting married anytime soon and no way am I giving up my stuff in some bitter legal battle over who did what to who
my theory is leave the cage door open at all times
if that bird keeps flying back
my guess is its cause she preferred it that way
there seems to be some really odd things that happen once folks get married
first strange event is a weight problem
the girl generally gains about fifty pounds soon followed by the hubbies beer belly
seen it happen more often than not
both parties seem equally as guilty in this one
question I always want to ask is
how does a hundred bloody pounds sneak up on you
I get bent if I am five pounds overweight
but somehow these folks miss not being able to squeeze behind the steering wheel anymore
if there were a fat clause in the divorce laws I bet that trend would change fast
forget it
I'll just live with a girl who knows enough to keep on her toes
and keeps me on mine
cause that cage door thing works two ways
best of luck folks
I still say the leading cause of divorce is marriage
there is a big difference between being somewhere cause you have to and being somewhere cause you want to
it will be over soon enough and it will be like a whole hew world opens up for you
interesting view Fanie
I approach the live in thing from the dead opposite angle
no ones leading anything and no ones in charge
I want a partner not a subordinate
not a snow balls chance Im getting married anytime soon and no way am I giving up my stuff in some bitter legal battle over who did what to who
my theory is leave the cage door open at all times
if that bird keeps flying back
my guess is its cause she preferred it that way
there seems to be some really odd things that happen once folks get married
first strange event is a weight problem
the girl generally gains about fifty pounds soon followed by the hubbies beer belly
seen it happen more often than not
both parties seem equally as guilty in this one
question I always want to ask is
how does a hundred bloody pounds sneak up on you
I get bent if I am five pounds overweight
but somehow these folks miss not being able to squeeze behind the steering wheel anymore
if there were a fat clause in the divorce laws I bet that trend would change fast
forget it
I'll just live with a girl who knows enough to keep on her toes
and keeps me on mine
cause that cage door thing works two ways
best of luck folks
I still say the leading cause of divorce is marriage
there is a big difference between being somewhere cause you have to and being somewhere cause you want to
Sean Herron
10-19-2009, 10:37 PM
When they come they are wet and wild. When they go they take the house and the car.
Great bits - thanks...
SH.
Great bits - thanks...
SH.
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10-20-2009, 11:41 AM
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Fanie
10-20-2009, 12:37 PM
Eh Boston,
It has become way too easy for people to divorce, and people divorce for the most part for the wrong reasons like the tube of tooth paste. Never thought of getting a tube for each of us, concentrating on the fight and not the solution, for some reason most issues is like this, we stop to think. It is however a matter of mutual respect.
I get the impression when somone gets married it's like 'now it's final, I have arived and no matter how I act I'm set and comfy'. Marriage per se in reality is only a piece of paper, which is not worth the ink it's written in. Where it really counts is in the mind and the mind set about it. If you look after your 'partner' (supposed to be for life eh !) then it will go well.
I want to say again, the man of the house is supposed to be the leader. You want to wear the pants, you want to be the big shot when it comes to decisions... then you have to take the responsibility as well. To whom much is given, much will be expected - and this applies to all walks of life. If you cannot or will not take the bigger responsibility then give it to the wife - and a lot of men give this to the wife, nothing wrong with that, it is not a sign of weakness, only a matter of who handles certain things better and with better judgement.
You ever wondered why opposites attract - it's our way of compensating for our shortcomings. Not sure why after the marriage we want to change them or they us, before the marriage they were soooo perfect... Simple, before the marriage we concentrated on the mate, after the marriage we begin to concentrate on ourselves, and want our own ways...
Marriage is like building a boat, the thought and consideration you put into it globally and into the detail will determine how well it performs, how comfortable and reliable it is going to be, and how well it will serve you in the long run.
Unfortunately and sadly success is rated in your $'s worth, not in the success at home and in those values. Maybe for this reason the world is so fcuked up.
It has become way too easy for people to divorce, and people divorce for the most part for the wrong reasons like the tube of tooth paste. Never thought of getting a tube for each of us, concentrating on the fight and not the solution, for some reason most issues is like this, we stop to think. It is however a matter of mutual respect.
I get the impression when somone gets married it's like 'now it's final, I have arived and no matter how I act I'm set and comfy'. Marriage per se in reality is only a piece of paper, which is not worth the ink it's written in. Where it really counts is in the mind and the mind set about it. If you look after your 'partner' (supposed to be for life eh !) then it will go well.
I want to say again, the man of the house is supposed to be the leader. You want to wear the pants, you want to be the big shot when it comes to decisions... then you have to take the responsibility as well. To whom much is given, much will be expected - and this applies to all walks of life. If you cannot or will not take the bigger responsibility then give it to the wife - and a lot of men give this to the wife, nothing wrong with that, it is not a sign of weakness, only a matter of who handles certain things better and with better judgement.
You ever wondered why opposites attract - it's our way of compensating for our shortcomings. Not sure why after the marriage we want to change them or they us, before the marriage they were soooo perfect... Simple, before the marriage we concentrated on the mate, after the marriage we begin to concentrate on ourselves, and want our own ways...
Marriage is like building a boat, the thought and consideration you put into it globally and into the detail will determine how well it performs, how comfortable and reliable it is going to be, and how well it will serve you in the long run.
Unfortunately and sadly success is rated in your $'s worth, not in the success at home and in those values. Maybe for this reason the world is so fcuked up.
Boston
10-20-2009, 05:42 PM
I hope you will accept a respectful disagreement then Fanie
but that sounds very much like the basic Judo-Christianic set of ethics that's led so many people to so much solitude.
all people yearn for freedom from any form of subjugation whether its in a marriage or in the work place
Equals is what I prefer all the way and fundamentally its the only state of existance that seems to lead to true happiness
a partner and an Independent is a far cry from a subordinate with the privileges and responsibilities being shared mutually
and the rewards
I see it every once in a while but its rare
generally its those rare few marriages that work out
did you ever watch that movie "The African Queen"
great old movie you would probably enjoy if you have not already seen it
reason I mention it is that its about two people thrown together in dificult times who take mutual responsibility and both share the lead
had they not been acting like partners and both offered and accepted the others lead at times
they would never have made it
to each his own
but I still say marriage is the leading cause of divorce
that and the basic failure of exactly the system you seem to be describing as what works
but that sounds very much like the basic Judo-Christianic set of ethics that's led so many people to so much solitude.
all people yearn for freedom from any form of subjugation whether its in a marriage or in the work place
Equals is what I prefer all the way and fundamentally its the only state of existance that seems to lead to true happiness
a partner and an Independent is a far cry from a subordinate with the privileges and responsibilities being shared mutually
and the rewards
I see it every once in a while but its rare
generally its those rare few marriages that work out
did you ever watch that movie "The African Queen"
great old movie you would probably enjoy if you have not already seen it
reason I mention it is that its about two people thrown together in dificult times who take mutual responsibility and both share the lead
had they not been acting like partners and both offered and accepted the others lead at times
they would never have made it
to each his own
but I still say marriage is the leading cause of divorce
that and the basic failure of exactly the system you seem to be describing as what works
Fanie
10-20-2009, 06:28 PM
The Christianic set of ethics is sound, no matter how you argue them.
any form of subjugation whether its in a marriage...
Something wrong with the setup then. The act of getting married is only a promise to be true to one another, share a life together... you heard it before, although it seems some think it's only a license to get layed more easily :D Whether you are officially married or just living together, what exactly is the difference ? The expectations are exactly the same.
As for anything Africa, I live in this figgin place, I try and avoid anything 'African' or African themes as far as possible in an effort to maintain sanity.
but I still say marriage is the leading cause of divorce
It is not marriage that causes divorce it's people. What do you call it when two people are living together ? It's the same as marriage. You can still claim the same as if when you are / were married. If you are married and wants to seperate nothing say you have to divorce, just ignore the piece of paper and go live elsewhere, save a bunch.
Whether you are married or not, moving in together and making a life together is exactly the same. Someone mentioned keeping on your toes, maybe some does need a bit of a threat (whip) to keep them on the streight and narrow :D
Still, if you marry or not, living together is the same thing, the same is expected to make it successful. If it's that piece of paper they issue then refuse to take it, burn it, or something ;)
any form of subjugation whether its in a marriage...
Something wrong with the setup then. The act of getting married is only a promise to be true to one another, share a life together... you heard it before, although it seems some think it's only a license to get layed more easily :D Whether you are officially married or just living together, what exactly is the difference ? The expectations are exactly the same.
As for anything Africa, I live in this figgin place, I try and avoid anything 'African' or African themes as far as possible in an effort to maintain sanity.
but I still say marriage is the leading cause of divorce
It is not marriage that causes divorce it's people. What do you call it when two people are living together ? It's the same as marriage. You can still claim the same as if when you are / were married. If you are married and wants to seperate nothing say you have to divorce, just ignore the piece of paper and go live elsewhere, save a bunch.
Whether you are married or not, moving in together and making a life together is exactly the same. Someone mentioned keeping on your toes, maybe some does need a bit of a threat (whip) to keep them on the streight and narrow :D
Still, if you marry or not, living together is the same thing, the same is expected to make it successful. If it's that piece of paper they issue then refuse to take it, burn it, or something ;)
Boston
10-20-2009, 06:48 PM
might be best if we just agree to disagree the religious aspects Fanie
although I think Cathrine Hepburn and Humphrey Bogart made a great pair in the movie
Ild once again highly recommend it
give it a chance
hey
they get married in the end :D
being a Native American and having minored in history your going to have a dam hard sell with the Judo-Christianic ethics line of reasoning
I'll just wish you the best and bale out on any discussion of religion that might stir up any unnecessary issues as it seems most people get all kinds of excited if you discuss there personal mythos
this is Shawn's thread after all
and it sounds like advice on marriage was not the initial intent but rather advice on surviving divorce
ps
if you want to discuss the history of religions or specifically the impact of the Judo-Christianic ethos in the new world it would probably be best to PM me rather than discuss it in the boating forum
Im always happy to discuss history and such but maybe just not here
cheers
B
although I think Cathrine Hepburn and Humphrey Bogart made a great pair in the movie
Ild once again highly recommend it
give it a chance
hey
they get married in the end :D
being a Native American and having minored in history your going to have a dam hard sell with the Judo-Christianic ethics line of reasoning
I'll just wish you the best and bale out on any discussion of religion that might stir up any unnecessary issues as it seems most people get all kinds of excited if you discuss there personal mythos
this is Shawn's thread after all
and it sounds like advice on marriage was not the initial intent but rather advice on surviving divorce
ps
if you want to discuss the history of religions or specifically the impact of the Judo-Christianic ethos in the new world it would probably be best to PM me rather than discuss it in the boating forum
Im always happy to discuss history and such but maybe just not here
cheers
B
welder/fitter
10-20-2009, 08:41 PM
Sounds like you could use a few nights at "Chicago Tonight", Sean. Best of luck!
Mike
Mike
Tug
10-20-2009, 10:06 PM
All women are crazy...
You just have to find the crazy you can live with...
Cheers
Tug
You just have to find the crazy you can live with...
Cheers
Tug
Frosty
10-20-2009, 11:45 PM
[QUOTE=Fanie. Marriage per se in reality is only a piece of paper, which is not worth the ink it's written in. Where it really counts is in the mind and the mind set about it.
Exactly so why bother with it. The only people who are happy when some one marries is florists and lawers.
Marriage will become laughable in the future,,-no wait it already is.
It can work the other way fannie --once your married you dont care, you dont need to,-- she /he cant get away " I dont need to wash my hair or shave any more".
Being able to leave keeps it alive.
Exactly so why bother with it. The only people who are happy when some one marries is florists and lawers.
Marriage will become laughable in the future,,-no wait it already is.
It can work the other way fannie --once your married you dont care, you dont need to,-- she /he cant get away " I dont need to wash my hair or shave any more".
Being able to leave keeps it alive.
masalai
10-21-2009, 03:04 AM
Sean, buy a dozen roses, a bottle of her favourite beer/wine/champagne, kiss & make up...
Fanie
10-21-2009, 07:29 AM
Sean, buy a dozen roses, a bottle of her favourite beer/wine/champagne, kiss & make up...
And that's the easy and cheap way. The difficult part is keeping the pose up. She's going to watch your every move :D But once her trust in you has been restored... it gets easier every day. Patience.
Eh Boston, what's with the natives ? Is there any where except in parliament where they flourish and prosper :eek: Btw, you realize it is ONLY whites that are racisits...
Exactly so why bother with it.
It's a human institution. Same kind of thing that says when it gets dark you have to sleep, and when the sun comes up you must get up and go to work. The wife must buy groceries at month end, no other time. It took me months to get my old witch out of this one. So there are lots of things assumed to be a certain way. In reality it's what's between the ears and what's in the heart that counts.
It could be something to do with the guilt the churches lay on people, if there is something that pisses me off terribly then it is when someone tries to make me feel guilty about what and how I do things, like we don't have a brain to think for ourselves.
And that's the easy and cheap way. The difficult part is keeping the pose up. She's going to watch your every move :D But once her trust in you has been restored... it gets easier every day. Patience.
Eh Boston, what's with the natives ? Is there any where except in parliament where they flourish and prosper :eek: Btw, you realize it is ONLY whites that are racisits...
Exactly so why bother with it.
It's a human institution. Same kind of thing that says when it gets dark you have to sleep, and when the sun comes up you must get up and go to work. The wife must buy groceries at month end, no other time. It took me months to get my old witch out of this one. So there are lots of things assumed to be a certain way. In reality it's what's between the ears and what's in the heart that counts.
It could be something to do with the guilt the churches lay on people, if there is something that pisses me off terribly then it is when someone tries to make me feel guilty about what and how I do things, like we don't have a brain to think for ourselves.
Frosty
10-21-2009, 10:09 AM
"Love stinks" great movie.
Sean Herron
10-29-2009, 07:53 PM
Hello...
All the butter gets split in two - all done...
Debt free - 60 odd grand collecting interest...
Truck paid for...
Job picking up on the Camno 41's and other...
Buy a Boler trailer - rent a tent in the yard - set up the #11 Forest Oak wood stove - buy a welder and a an old bankers chair - sit back back - and have a good think...
Aside from that - a good chuckle - a real conversation with real names just over lunch with a fantastic fiberglasser from Laos...
I qoute - 'Sou and Sok - his brother Loeng - very fast - you hire now'...
Ah - give me a minute...:)
SH.
All the butter gets split in two - all done...
Debt free - 60 odd grand collecting interest...
Truck paid for...
Job picking up on the Camno 41's and other...
Buy a Boler trailer - rent a tent in the yard - set up the #11 Forest Oak wood stove - buy a welder and a an old bankers chair - sit back back - and have a good think...
Aside from that - a good chuckle - a real conversation with real names just over lunch with a fantastic fiberglasser from Laos...
I qoute - 'Sou and Sok - his brother Loeng - very fast - you hire now'...
Ah - give me a minute...:)
SH.
Sean Herron
10-29-2009, 08:11 PM
Hello...
Your wife goes out to an old company function - she is British - gin as milk - she has a ride home with the happy gay guy - fine...
You go to sleep - key in lock and door opens - man voice - 'your husband is home' - you assume it is the gay guy seeing her to the door...
The two walk in - she passes out on the dining room table - the supposed gay walks thru the apartment and stops at the bedroom door - you wake up and start to move - he bolts...
Three things could have happened...
I am not home and he rapes her ass...
I come home while he is raping her ass...
I did not wake up - he puts an iron into my head - then rapes her ass - and leaves with my credit cards...
Legal divorce is a good out - so cut the religious crap...
I suppose context is everything...:)
SH.
Your wife goes out to an old company function - she is British - gin as milk - she has a ride home with the happy gay guy - fine...
You go to sleep - key in lock and door opens - man voice - 'your husband is home' - you assume it is the gay guy seeing her to the door...
The two walk in - she passes out on the dining room table - the supposed gay walks thru the apartment and stops at the bedroom door - you wake up and start to move - he bolts...
Three things could have happened...
I am not home and he rapes her ass...
I come home while he is raping her ass...
I did not wake up - he puts an iron into my head - then rapes her ass - and leaves with my credit cards...
Legal divorce is a good out - so cut the religious crap...
I suppose context is everything...:)
SH.
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