dealing with folk who have a superiority complex

[mr curious]

you know what i mean...

[Landlubber]

I don't have an inferiority complex, I am inferior!

[tinhorn]

This'll be an interesting thread. I just moved to Massachusetts.

[masalai]

Hi Tin, does that make you superior or take you a bit further away from Lake Superior

Hi again Mr Curious, as with many "ancient pieces of %**t" like self, this purported superiority comes with lots of exposure at being inferior and gradually getting enough experience to pretend at being superior and mostly pulling it off.... You know what I mean...

This attitude has certain benefits - like learning the skills to act and behave like you "Own the place" - so regardless of your dress - one appears to "belong" - so then, what one does is sit down in the most comfy chair (or move it to a better spot before doing so) and then at leisure, take in this new environment in comfort.... If you know what I mean.... I have even commandeered a concierges chair, moved it to a better spot for me, and scowled appropriately so he left me to enjoy my comfort.

It all takes practice and experience, and comes with its own perks and benefits.... You appear to have the requisite Chutzpah, and will soon find you can enjoy certain privileges.... If you know what I mean

[mr curious]

Originally Posted by masalai

Hi Tin, does that make you superior or take you a bit further away from Lake Superior

Hi again Mr Curious, as with many "ancient pieces of %**t" like self, this purported superiority comes with lots of exposure at being inferior and gradually getting enough experience to pretend at being superior and mostly pulling it off.... You know what I mean...

This attitude has certain benefits - like learning the skills to act and behave like you "Own the place" - so regardless of your dress - one appears to "belong" - so then, what one does is sit down in the most comfy chair (or move it to a better spot before doing so) and then at leisure, take in this new environment in comfort.... If you know what I mean.... I have even commandeered a concierges chair, moved it to a better spot for me, and scowled appropriately so he left me to enjoy my comfort.

It all takes practice and experience, and comes with its own perks and benefits.... You appear to have the requisite Chutzpah, and will soon find you can enjoy certain privileges.... If you know what I mean

practice makes perfect

[masalai]

Generally

[BHOFM]

I would reply to this thread, but I feel it is below my station!

[Butch .H]

Who! what? am I awake must be too intelegent to understand this post

[masalai]

Bloody liars? - what have we here? - - - - - - - - - both of you.... come on put up your CASE - - - Present your argument/defence/refutation......

Where is Frosty, Safie, Fanie, Manie when they are needed..... and what about all the intellectuals from the "ivory towers"? - do I have to name and shame to get your participation IN A LITTLE INOFFENSIVE VERBAL DEBATE AND (hit the bloody caps lock key again) enliven the level of discourse?

[Butch .H]

Huh! and you think thems gonna chalange MY INTELECT.

[BHOFM]

I am proud of my humility!

[Richard Atkin]

Mr Curious,
Did you deal recently with a person who appeared to have a superiority complex? My poor lad, you must feel very small and humiliated.
Let me explain to you a few things about life, so you will find it easier in future to live yours, no matter how humble that might be.
Every man is equal, but that does not mean you are not special. Try not to be intimidated by those who live life at a higher level. There is room in this big world for people like you. You simply have to find your little stronghold, and be proud of who you are.

How was that Masalai? Did I do good? or do I need more practice?

[waikikin]

Right on BHOFM, I like to be wrong at least once a decade or so just so I can enjoy the humility! All the best from the best of the best

[mr curious]

Originally Posted by Richard Atkin

Try not to intimidate those who live a life at a higher level.

well said.....

[mr curious]

Superiority complex refers to a subconscious neurotic mechanism of compensation developed by the individual as a result of feelings of inferiority.[1] The feelings of inferiority in this specific complex are often brought on by real or perceived social rejection. The term was coined by Alfred Adler (February 7, 1870 – May 28, 1937), as part of his School of Individual psychology.

Superiority complex in everyday usage means having very high opinion of oneself. In psychology it refers to the same attitude, however in psychology it is considered that the attitude is actually a way to hide or compensate for feeling of inferiority. It was a term introduced by psychologist Alfred Adler in series of his books like "Understanding Human Nature", "Social Interest" etc.

Those exhibiting the superiority complex commonly project their feelings of inferiority onto others they perceive as beneath them, possibly for the same reasons they themselves may have been ostracized, i.e. viewing most, possibly all others as "ugly" or "stupid", and beneath oneself. Accusations of arrogance and cockiness are often made by others when referring to the individual exhibiting the superiority complex.

Behaviors related to this mechanism may include an exaggeratedly positive opinion of one’s worth and abilities, unrealistically high expectations in goals and achievements for oneself and others, the persistent attempt to correct others regardless of whether they are factually correct or not, vanity, extravagant style in dressing (with intent of drawing attention), excessive need for competition, pride, sentimentalism and affected exaltation, snobbishness, a tendency to discredit other’s opinions, forcefulness aimed at dominating those considered as weaker or less important, credulity, and others.[2]

Social aloofness, daydreaming and isolation could also be associated with the Superiority Complex, as a way for one to evade the fear of failure related to the feelings of inadequacy to face the real world.

Superiority and inferiority complex are often found together as the different expressions of the same pathology and the two complexes can exist within the same individual. Superiority can also be caused by PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).